How Relationships Break Down
We as humans think of love as something that is given and received and if our love isn’t returned then our love dwindles and dies. Is it any wonder why men and women don’t trust Jesus Christ?
They think of God’s love in the same terms as human love; But God isn’t human. He doesn’t love us because we love Him. His love is, and always has been unconditional! Please read John chapter three and Romans chapter five.
God constantly reminds us in His Word that he loves us regardless of whether that love is returned. Is your love that unselfish? God supplies our every need and gives us the desires of our heart. Is your love that caring? God gave that which was most dear to Him, His only begotten Son. Is your love that giving?
Marriages are destroyed when one thinks they deserve better. He tells you that you deserve the reward without the responsibility. Satan persuaded Eve that she deserved that fruit. When Jesus was temptedby the devil He wouldn’t by-pass the cross to gain His crown.
Relationships break down when set or attention on the irresponsibility of others and don’t pay de heed to our own responsibilities. If your idea is, “I'll do what I’m supposed to do when my spouse does”. You may as well write-off any hope of a good marriage! It is not a man's duty to make his wife submit, nor is it the wife's duty to make her husband love her.
The command in Ephesians 5 is directed to YOU. You build a relationship by taking responsibility. A husband is obedient to God when he takes care of his duty of loving his wife and training his children. A wife is supposed to submit whether her husband loves her or not. The shame and separation and sorrow in a failing relationship like the first one in Genesis 3, are caused by sin and selfishness.